my one power is letting nothing rest which is not well balanced
1982, Janine Alasdair Gray
Mommy is a sadist…and a masochist
I like being spanked, tied up, diapered, turned into a maid, peed on, and made into a footrest. Did you know? Probably–if you’re a fan of my earlier work. But it’s been a while since I really identified as a switch in any immediately evident way. I.e. I haven’t been marketing myself that way. After all, “Mommy Dom” is much more hashtag-able than “Mommy swtich”, even if that’s a much closer description of what I am and how I like to play in session and in private.
Why did I stop subbing in session?
When I first made myself available for in-person BDSM play, the URL I chose was NaughtyLittleSwitch.com, and I used it until I became pregnant. (Yes, I’m a real person with a whole little life!) While I certainly don’t judge those who work through their pregnancies, regardless of their field, being tied up and hit or crawling around on my hands and knees–at least in front of a stranger–lost its allure and I decided that, for the first time, I would only be available for bookings as a dominant.
And I never really fell back into switching in live sessions, though I continued to switch and sub as an actress. I played with the idea, but always secondarily. Instead of being a switch, I was a Mistress who would sub. I imagine that this presentation was unappealing or even confusing to both potential submissives and dominants, who wanted to know that I thoroughly embodied my roles.
Now, NaughtyLittleSwitch.com is a blank hole in the Internet and I’ve decided to go with my current, more grown-up address: AtelierPennyBarber.com. I’ve outgrown the cutesy words “Naughty” and “Little”, but I still want to switch!
Why do I want to start subbing again?
If sado-masochism were a play, I would enjoy it no matter where my seat was in the theater. I deeply enjoy submission and well-executed pain play, humiliation, and bondage, as can be seen in my on-camera work and inferred from my Twitter and OnlyFans posts. I enjoy meeting dominants of all genders and getting to experience male dominance, which is just as beautiful as male submission. It’s just as rare, too. Male domination (patriarchy) may be quite commonplace, but it isn’t practiced with any real intention and the men engaging in it, for the most part, couldn’t really be described as engaging in male dominance.
I deeply enjoy submission and well-executed pain play, humiliation, and bondage, as can be seen in my on-camera work and inferred from my Twitter and OnlyFans posts. I enjoy meeting dominants of all genders and getting to experience male dominance, which is just as beautiful as male submission. It’s just as rare, too. Male domination (patriarchy) may be quite commonplace, but it isn’t practiced with any real intention and the men engaging in it, for the most part, couldn’t really be described as dominant.
Of course, most of the scenes I engage in don’t really focus on the genders of the dominants or submissives. It’s rare that I’m asked to submit in a male supremacy sort of way. Actually, I don’t know that I’ve ever done so a professional session, though it does sound like a fun role play now that I think about it. Usually the focus is more on physical sensation, mental and spiritual submission, connection, and controlled vulnerability.
…dominant Sado-Magicians can also work upon their own subjective universes by projecting that part of their inner selves they wish to transform onto the image of the submissive and then by making the right adjustments in that image by training it to do your will.
Carnal Alchemy: Sado-Magical Tecnhiques for Pleasure, Pain, and Self-Transformation Stephen E. Flowers and Crystal Dawn Flowers
Booking a session with a client is an act of service that borders on and often fully crosses over into submission. The solicitation, the emotional labor, the planning, the staging and cleanup–I mostly associate these types of acts with submission, though I do sometimes dress up the foreparts as interrogation and plotting, depending on the dynamic with a specific client and how involved they are in the process.
Also, don’t forget that I am, indeed, a masochist. I especially like being spanked and having my feet caned. Rope bondage makes me feel beautiful. Knowing that I’m pleasing a deserving Master who respects my limits and knows that my submission is a gift makes me glow. It also stirs my creativity. Part of me craves the (possibly over-emphasized) arrangement of the Leather Old Guard in which one was required to bottom before being trusted and allowed to top and I clearly see the benefit of not inflicting punishments or even pleasures that are fundamentally unknown to the one at the controls, as it were. As a submissive, I’m definitely more enthusiastic about being whipped by a dominant who knows firsthand what that singletail feels like!
Whether you’re a new dominant who wants to actually start honing their skills or an experienced top who is eager for a willing submissive to test your skills upon, I hope that you’ll reach out to me. I have a lot of time in my schedule this week and would love to spend some of it on my knees.
XOXO,
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