Penny Barber BDSM in Oakland | San Francisco | Las Vegas

Interests

Below are lists of play that I enjoy and engage in professionally and play that I do not enjoy or engage in. Most of my interests hold whether I am Domming or subbing, but the crossover isn’t universal. Play that I offer only as a dominant is marked with an asterisk. If you have any questions or require clarification, please do not hesitate to ask!

  • Adult baby (AB) / age play / infantilism Please use my specialized website, DiaperDisciplinarian.com for a more immersive ABDL experience.
  • Bondage (leather, metal, rope, and more)
  • Boot worship
  • Chastity
  • Cock and ball torture (CBT) or genitorture*
  • Couples sessions (bring your partner!)
  • Cross-dressing (CD)
  • Cuckolding
  • Diaper lover (DL)
  • Electrical play
  • Enema play While I don’t hang around for expulsion, I greatly enjoy administering all sorts of enemas, including plain water, soapsuds, mild intoxicants, coffee, etc.
  • Fetish play
    • Boots
    • High heels
    • Latex
    • Leather
    • Lycra
    • Stockings, pantyhose, and tights
  • Financial domination*
  • Forced feminization
  • Foot worship*
  • Golden showers (GS) / watersports
  • Human furniture (forniphilia)
  • Humiliation
  • Impact play
    • Caning
    • Cropping
    • Flogging
    • Over the knee (OTK) spanking
    • Spanking
    • Strapping
  • Maid training
  • Nipple torture (NT)*
  • Pony play
  • Puppy play
  • Public play and humiliation (discreet only)
  • Role playing (RP)
  • Sadism
  • Sensory deprivation*
  • Shaving*
  • Sissy training
  • Sissification
  • Spitting*
  • Strap-on worship
  • Tease and denial (TnD)
  • Tickling*

*I only offer this form of play as a dominant.

And Beyond…

Other fun services that I offer include:

  • Tokens such as used panties, stockings, and high heels, which you may take with you at the end of our session, provided that you have informed be beforehand.
  • Recorded sessions. You are welcome to bring your own equipment to photograph or record our time together for no additional fee, though I will not sign a model release or provide 2257 information. I can also document our session for you, with or without a camera person, for an additional $100 per hour. Using my camera with your own SD card, which you take home with you, is an additional $50 per hour.
  • Photography and videography. I would love to create media for your personal collection, online profile, or even your clip store! Depending on your needs, this service starts at an additional $100 per hour. I greatly enjoy this artistic outlet as well as having something to look back on and remember our time together. (You need not show your face or other identifying marks, if that is a concern.)

Limitations

Please read my list of limitations carefully. Any violation of my limitations will result in the immediate termination of the session without a refund. If you have any questions, please don’t hesitate to ask when making your reservation.

My General Limitations

  • All play must be negotiated prior to the beginning of the session. Of course I’ll look over your application, but we’ll also have a few minutes to sit down and discuss both of our desires, expectations, and hopes for our time together.
  • I do not engage in sex of any kind. I cannot stress this enough and it is not just a legal thing. If you show up expecting me to be a discount escort, you will be disappointed. However, if you show up expecting playful, indulgent BDSM, you will be thrilled.
  • I do not offer play without safe words. While we might change it up and add another safe word for fun, I always abide by the house safe words red and mercy and expect you to as well. Remember that safe words are for safety, not topping from the bottom. Using your safe word means that you cannot continue and we need to change it up. I will take anything you say after using your safe work in complete seriousness, though we may keep playing if you feel that you are able to. Remember to treat me with the same courtesy.
  • I do not offer red, brown, or Roman showers. I do not offer scat play at all. Enemas may be administered in session, but are to be expelled in private.
  • I will not come in contact with any of your bodily fluids, such as vomit, spit, blood, or semen. Hygiene and health are of the utmost importance to me.
  • I do not offer wrestling sessions. 
  • I do not smoke in my space. If you would like to book a smoking fetish session, please book an outcall session.

My Submissive Limitations

Note to novice tops: The best session will result from honesty. If you present yourself as an experienced top and then start making a lot of mistakes, I’ll spend the whole session watching you, worried that you think you know more than you do. If, however, you let me know that you’re new, I can keep an eye on you without feeling wary. Also, I’ll agree to see you again instead of warning other subs about you!

  • I do not offer oral body worship.
  • You may not strike me in a major organ, such as the stomach or kidneys.
  • You may not strike me over bone, including as my hips, hands, or knees. While being struck in these areas is not usually harmful, I’ve been hurt by a number of tops–novice to experienced. If you would like to strike an iffy location (note that I enjoy bastinado, or having my feet caned) we can simply talk beforehand to make sure that you stay within my comfort and safety zones.
  • While I enjoy reminders of our time together, marks cause me to lose income. Hence, I cannot be marked in session without additional compensation of $100 per hour.
  • I do not imbibe during golden showers or get urine in my mouth.
  • I do not submit to types of play that require special training for the dominant, such as play piercing or suspension bondage, though I am happy to play with another professional dominatrix for these types of scenes.

If you find that our interests align and you are happy to respect my limitations, please feel free to reach out to me about reserving a session.